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[payat83]

Hello,
Believe me, if a man kissed me against my will he would only do it once!
From what you said, it doesn't sound like she objected at all, actually it sounds like she was encouraging it. Maybe she is being truthful about not wanting it to go any further but she is certainly playing with fire. If she has admitted that the compliments and attention felt good, maybe you two need to spend some more quality time together - getting the attention from each other not outsiders.
Your resorting to violence isn't going to solve anything and you`re lucky you weren't charged with assault. SHE was standing talking with him - she is the one who is suppose to be faithful - why beat him up, she`s the one behaving questionably.
Take care & good luck

[woody]

LOL Mistakenly kissed her and she mistakenly kissed him. Come on hon, wake up. Your wife thinks your supid and your not helping your cause any. They were flirting around and she was into him. Hopefully nothing really happened beyond that, but, we don't know that, do we? Your married to a little tram*, keep an eye on her.

[hadrian]

In every relationship there is always one that loves more than the other. Maybe your wife had a brain fart 3 times? Or just didn't take her wedding vows as serious as you do. The point is you can't go around beating the crap out of everyone she decides to kiss. Is there anything you could do to show her the attention she wants so she doesn't have to look for it elsewhere?
You have an opportunity to make your marriage stronger because of this or let it lead to a divorce. It sounds like you need more open and honest communication between you two. So, without condemning her ask her why she would kiss any guy other then you? How would she feel if you kissed other women? Would that be showing her the respect she deserves? Get it all talked out about this guy and never EVER bring it up again. You have to forgive! But, you are only human so, you won't forget a stab in your back. If she loves you she will remember the scar she left by her actions.
Marriage is based on a mutual commitment to each other and trust in each other to keep that commitment. If trust is lost so is the commitment. If that ends up being the case you have to decide to be the one that loves the most in that relationship or just end it.

[payat83]

I don't think that it was a mistake. i think she liked it. He may be attractive, smell good, have a nice body, a say things that you may or may not say, he may make her feel wanted appreciated. I'm not saying that you don't but things between the two of you may not be as intimate or share the same connection. There a number of possibilities. Only you truly know what things are like between you. My suggestion would be talk to her be absolutely honest about every aspect of your marriage. What you like and don't like, what areas need improvement and work together to try and find solutions that are suitable for you both. i don't believe marriage is something to be taken lightly and i believe in purpose in which God intended, so decisions regarding them shouldn't be taken lightly either. As for you wife she needs to come clean about everything and with your help figure out why she felt the need to step outside of the marriage and what need to take place to keep this from ever happening again. Good Luck

[kyrell]

O.K. I personally think there were 3 mistake kisses. Give your wife more attention, compliments, buy her roses, do dinner, have bubble baths with each other. Sounds like she may be lacking attention from you and getting it at work. She may have liked the attention for a minute and then found out how he really was. It's good that he isn't working there anymore due to inappropriate behavior. You should not have beat him up. I think just sit down with your wife and communicate about your marriage. Move on in your marriage. I'd say if she is meeting him on the side and made everything seem to be his fault, then there is a problem. 2 theory's to throw your way. Good Luck with your marriage.